Comments on: Ignorant Family Members http://blackandblended.wordpress.com/2007/11/03/ignorant-family-members/ Being in a blended family is challenging - let's build a supportive communiity. Sun, 08 Mar 2009 21:14:33 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Soul Sistah http://blackandblended.wordpress.com/2007/11/03/ignorant-family-members/#comment-10 Soul Sistah Sun, 04 Nov 2007 23:53:51 +0000 http://blackandblended.wordpress.com/2007/11/03/ignorant-family-members/#comment-10 Welcome Ms. Grapevine! They SHOULD step up but they don't always. It's good when you have a man/woman that has your back in these situations. I know several folk that have had to fight the battle alone while their spouse just sat on the sidelines straddling the fence. It's funny that more than half of the families in the US are made up of blended families (I can't remember the source), yet you rarely hear folk discuss it. Welcome Ms. Grapevine!

They SHOULD step up but they don’t always. It’s good when you have a man/woman that has your back in these situations. I know several folk that have had to fight the battle alone while their spouse just sat on the sidelines straddling the fence.

It’s funny that more than half of the families in the US are made up of blended families (I can’t remember the source), yet you rarely hear folk discuss it.

]]> By: MrsGrapevine http://blackandblended.wordpress.com/2007/11/03/ignorant-family-members/#comment-9 MrsGrapevine Sun, 04 Nov 2007 23:12:34 +0000 http://blackandblended.wordpress.com/2007/11/03/ignorant-family-members/#comment-9 This is when the man should stand-up, and explain to his family the new rules, and the new order of things. It's hard enough integrating into a family without the drama. It certainly helps when the man has your back and you can battle to set your foundation. The in-laws are just being protective, but sometimes they forget the boundaries, and they also forget that they are not the ones in the relationship. Don't worry about family and friends, your step-children are now your children and you have to raise them according to the values you and your husband share. This is when the man should stand-up, and explain to his family the new rules, and the new order of things. It’s hard enough integrating into a family without the drama. It certainly helps when the man has your back and you can battle to set your foundation.

The in-laws are just being protective, but sometimes they forget the boundaries, and they also forget that they are not the ones in the relationship.

Don’t worry about family and friends, your step-children are now your children and you have to raise them according to the values you and your husband share.

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