I’ve been on all sides of the blended family scene, the step-parent, the step-child, the biological parent, etc. you name it, I’ve been it. I’ve been blessed by it in a way as I can help others to see the different sides of the table and appreciate for myself the difficulties each side represents.
When my son went to live temporarily with his bio-dad and step-mom, I was quite apprehensive and concerned that this woman would mistreat my son. I made it my busineess to be cordial to her and express appreciation for the little things she did for my son – even while he showed her his behind. I also called her on the things I thought were out-of-order. I’m saying this to say, give credit where it is due and when you need to put the step-parent in check, you will not be viewed as the angry bio-parent. Remember, it is in your child’s best interest to work WITH the other set of parents, not against them.
I even sent her a heartfelt Mother’s Day card, because after all, she was taking care of my baby in all of his angry teenage rebellion – I knew it was not an easy situation for her to deal with – I knew my son……
Marcus Langford said,
December 2, 2007 at 9:55 pm
this is very humbling message to those who would be in this type of situation.
just like you said, a step-parent can treated with respect for their involvement in your child’s upbringing.
this is a great post.
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Hicktownpress said,
December 6, 2007 at 7:48 am
There is should an alternate name used other than “step”.
There is just something about step-mother, step-child….
Lynn
Hicktownpress said,
December 6, 2007 at 7:49 am
I made a lot of typos in the message.
Let me try this again:
I wanted to say….
There should be an alternate name used other than “step”.
Soul Sistah said,
December 10, 2007 at 11:23 am
“Step” does have a negative connotation. My daughter hated to be referred to as a “step child/daughter”.
kajol said,
December 4, 2008 at 12:21 am
dear mom ,
u r so nice .
now , am in Bangladesh .
when will u come back