Looking back over my parenting, I recognize many things I could have better. One thing I could have improved upon was spending more one on one time with my son. I was sometimes so busy focusing on the relationship or lack there of with my step-daughter that I failed to spend as much quality time with my own son as I should have. I guess in my mind, I was thinking, my son and I already are tight…I need to focus on this other relationship. That was a big mistake. I suspect my actions only served to make my son feel that he was not as important to me as my new relationship. As a step-parent you must be many things to many people and you must also be an expert juggler.
Thankfully, my son and I are still tight (he’s 19) and we spend a significant amount of time together – just he and I and it’s like a little piece of heaven, until his cellphone rings and I’m forced to play the “This is My Time” card….lol.
Shelia said,
December 4, 2007 at 2:09 am
At the very least and in your favor, you pay attention to what’s going on around you and make corrections as you go. You ought to bottle that ability and sell it! A lot of people just let the day go by and start over without any consideration as to what was right or wrong yesterday.
Soul Sistah said,
December 10, 2007 at 11:21 am
Yeah….parenting is always a work in progress