December 27, 2008 at 11:30 pm (Basics, Step Family, Step Mother, blended family)
Tags: beating the odds, blended familiy, step familiy, thankful
Looks like I’d abandoned this blog but I’ve been getting comments lately so maybe I’m actually helping a few folks out there. It seems blended families and the issues involved are some things that are not really discussed in society. It’s as if society expects blended families to function like nuclear families and they simply do NOT.
Over the holidays all of our children (his, hers & ours) were together. We had a wonderful time hanging out, watching movies, visiting other relatives, etc. It’s a precious time when your entire family can come together and everyone is happy and healthy. I’m thankful for all three of my precious children and my husband. We have beat the odds – we’re still going strong after 18 years. I attribute our success to our faith, always TRYING to present a united front and talking openly about issues as they arise. It was not an easy tasks beleive me – but it can be done.
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February 8, 2008 at 6:55 pm (Basics, Step Parent, blended family, step parenting)
Tags: Discipline, Division, United Front
I may not be, but I’m the one that’s here with you and your going to respect me and obey my rules or I’m going to discipline you like I was your Momma/Daddy.
OK…maybe you shouldn’t physically discipline your step-children but you definitely better put them in check before they run all over you. If they get away with saying this to you one time…they’ll say it whenever the mood strikes them and it only gets worse.
Also, when you put them in check, do it IN FRONT OF their biological parent/your spouse so the child knows your both on the same page and that you will not waffle just because their biological parent is present. One of the most important elements in a blended family is maintaining a united front in the presence of the children. If they see any weakness they will exploit it and have you and your spouse at odds.
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January 20, 2008 at 9:45 pm (Basics, Grown Kids, blended family)
Tags: Appreciation
My husband I celebrated our anniversary this weekend and went out of town to spend some alone time. To our surprise there was a bottle of wine and a floral arrangement sitting on the table in our hotel room.
When I read the card I realized it was from my step-daughter. It made me so proud that we’d raised her to be the thoughtful & generous young woman that she is. This gesture also confirms a certain appreciation she has for me. I mean, really how many STEP-CHILDREN would really celebrate the anniversary of their biological and step-parents marriage?
Just further verification that sometimes what you give comes back.
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November 26, 2007 at 8:35 pm (Silly Stuff, Step Family, blended family)
My step-daughter looks like I spit her out of my womb, seriously, folk have always looked at us and said “Your daughter looks just like you” and she and I would look at each other with our “look”….it was so funny. In contrast folk used to look at my youngest son (ours) and ask me who I was baby sitting for as he looks like a clone of his dad – I was just the incubator. Our middle son (mine) looks like my step-daughter and I guess it ties us all together in our mixed up, blended up family.
Over the holidays we were all at a football game and someone asked my husband if my son and his daughter were twins, he replied that they were not but they sure did look alike. I guess folks really start looking alike after being together for long periods of time.
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